Premature Ejaculation? How to Last Longer In Bed

In today’s blog we are going to look at how to last longer in bed. Let’s face it, if we want to own a solid version of masculinity then cuming quickly after we’ve begun is certainly not going to help us embody that!

Many men are suffering from this ailment and it can cause crippling amounts of shame and embarrassment and leave your partners confused and unsatisfied. If left unaddressed it can fester and effect the levels of intimacy you experience in your relationship.

So what exactly is premature ejaculation? There is no hard or fast definition but it goes something like this – when a man experiences orgasm and expels semen soon after sexual activity and with minimal penile stimulation. The consensus for the definition of premature is ejaculation which always or nearly always occurs prior to or within about 1 minute.

Does this sound like you?

If so, how can you overcome premature ejaculation and turn yourself from a sprinter into a marathon runner ? In most cases it is relatively simple to turn it around. In my experience premature ejaculation is a result of too much stress and stimulation. I don’t have time to go into here but let’s just say that the act of ejaculation require us to be in the fight or flight side of our nervous system.

Most men in modern day life are over stressed and stimulated which means that most of us spend the majority of our time in the fight or flight state which will bring on ejaculation much quicker than desired.

The solution then seems pretty simple. Reduce your stress and your sexual stamina will go through the roof!

Now reducing your stress is a very individual process and is beyond the scope of this video but I will impart a pearl of wisdom for you that will help you on your journey to overcoming premature ejaculation.

Breathing is a really important component of not only our general health but also our sexual health.

How do you currently breathe when you’re having sex? You might find that you alternate with periods of short and shallow breathing and holding your breath. Both of these types of breathing will shorten your sexual encounter by stimulating the fight or flight response in your body. Great if you’re running from a lion but not so good if you’re trying to create intimacy with your partner

Breathing is intimately linked to our nervous system and different types of breathing will have different effects on the nervous system. To increase our sexual stamina we need to stimulate the opposite side of our nervous system to the fight or flight side and we can do this by slowing down our breathing and breathing through our nose. Ideally when we inhale our belly should rise and fall when we exhale – this is called diaphragmatic breathing. Breathing low into our belly and aiming for 6 breathes per minute will assist us in stimulating the correct side of our nervous system to slow down ejaculation and increase our sexual encounters.

Practice this breathing technique on your own for 5-10mins per day for a week. Once you feel competent with the breathing technique above try to incorporate it into your sex life. It might help to use the breathing practice as part of your foreplay before any clothes come off. Just lay on the bed holding hands with your partner while you slow your breathing and engage your belly. Keep the same breathing rhythm once you’ve commenced and ask your partner to act as a coach so they can let you know when you’ve reverted to your old pattern of breathing.

So there you have it! A quick and easy solution to premature ejaculation that doesn’t involve spraying anything up your nose!

For more advise on all things men check out the FAQ videos and other blogs. You’ll also be able to download my free e-book “The 4 essential practices of healthy men”. which contains information and practice to help you begin your journey to freedom.

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